JOBS AND CAREER

Are you reluctant to boast or promote yourself? Better not. If yes, then you will prevent yourself for obtaining a good opportunity in career.
Because promoting ourselves is not a choice but a choice, Brag quoted from the book “The Fine Art of Tooting your own horn without blowing it. Here is how to promote yourself

Familiarize yourself
o Always tuck your credibility on the sidelines of your conversation, but still with the ethics and manners. The more often you do the more familiar.
Bring proof
o When a job interview or meeting with potential clients, do not forget to bring a resume or proof of your credibility, of a positive recommendation, IQ test, test potential, until the record of work experiance.
Preparation
o Make every meeting or conversation, there is always a memorable message that touches the heart of describing your credibility as a professional person.
Record and analysis
o Record all the words you say, either as you’ll representation, bertemuorang disebuah event, or during a job interview. Play the video and notice, if the words that you say sounds interesting, fun, or just make people sick. And start by looking for words that sounded interesting.

In daily work we are always confronted with a conflict. If we are not able to resolve the conflict properly, it will affect our morale and performance.
Many people avoid conflict in every job, because the conflict can create negative effects for someone. Ranging from anger, disappointment, did not like, until the stress condition. These conditions normally encountered by every worker, even if we do not like it, but the conflict is part of life and no one is able to eliminate orangpun. Keep in mind, however, conflict can also increase productivity, because the conflict is a sign of a difference perspective can create creative ideas for solving the problem.

Every person has a “style” alone in resolving conflicts. “Style” is meant is a spontaneous behavior that was issued when someone is faced with a conflict.
Different reaction could happen to anyone. There are likely to agree with the boss, there are also conflicting opinions with their own children by giving a plausible reason. Well, to deal with the conflict we should not use the ’style “but” strategy “. The difference is that the strategy carried out with full awareness of the alias is planned to resolve the conflict. With our strategy to overcome conflicts with positive results for both parties.
Here are strategies for coping with conflict:
Ignore
This strategy can be used for people who do not want to come along more involved in the conflict. He could think of this conflict would be a waste of time, if this is the reason, ignoring the conflict can be the right choice.

Avoid
Conflict can be avoided if a person feels unbalanced force, but by avoiding conflict does not mean being a coward, but if we always do every conflict. With so we need to find another strategy.

Dominate
This strategy is appropriate if the decision must be taken because the issue is not so important didebatkan. This strategy is generally oriented to power, and can be done if the other person does not have enough knowledge about the debate. Yet this strategy will be effective if we feel completely justified and deserves ..

Accommodative
This strategy is done in order the other person feel better, this strategy is also used to foster trust to talk to our opponents.

Ask for help
This strategy uses the third person to mediate the conflict. This conflict is if both parties feel the most powerful and imposing the will. Mediator should be someone who are experts in communication or trust between the parties.

Humor
This can be done by way of responding to conflicts with the way of the comic know that fun and funny. This strategy can be used if we are in a team or a group, because of each other’s understanding of the other person’s character that can break the ice.

Delay
This strategy can be done if both parties were both very emoisional, so take time to accomplish. But it needs to be prepared after the period of delay ability expires, so the conflict can be resolved without any more delays.

Compromise
This strategy can be done if other strategies failed, and both sides want to get a solution really satisfactory.
Integration
Integration is focused on collecting and combining information, which at the same time encourage the birth of creative thinking with a perspective different. This strategy is if each party does not obtain a complete picture of the issues being debated. That way both parties can find the results of an entirely new, even better than expected.

Collaboration
Collaboration means working together resolve the conflict. That means both parties must be willing to give time, energy, and thinking to get the best solution. In addition, each mmasing must develop mutual trust and confidence in them.

Surely you’ve been in a large forum, with communicators who continue to speak before the crowd, but no one word that can attract attention. What was wrong with him?
Our first President Sukarno was a great communicator who always spoke with a fiery, passionate, and full of emphasis in on his every word, making the content of speech is not monotonous and always attract attention also encouraging to anyone who listened.

Failure of communication or communication that will make audiences monotony can not understand what we say, let alone motivated from our discussions. The influence and the message we want to give anything not be up to our expectations.
If your job requires you a lot of talking in public, then you must communicate it to monotone.

Like whether the monotonous style communicate it? Stancey communications consultant Hanke said, one of the symptoms is where your words do not reflect what is your attitude, for example when you say you love bahw working with your partner but with a flat face without expression, as well as your eyes do not show that you are pleased, of course, your colleagues will not believe your words right?
So he began to speak with enthusiasm, full of expression so that people around you are interested to always listen to your conversation. Hanke gave some other suggestions that you can be more astute in communicating.
Pause
When you speak, avoid the word “eeee” when you are confused to say anything. ’said’ this bahw indicate you do not know what you want to say next, if this happens then you are considered not to have credibility. If the deadlock attack the Hanke suggested that you pause and stop for a moment, thinking about what sentence would you use next. With the concentration paused you will stay awake so as not to make the audience look away or else fikirannya kehal.

Eye contact
Most people are not long enough to make eye contact. In fact, it is important to create a relationship, the relationship will be formed if there is trust, and one who creates the trust is with eye contact, eye contact is believed to create a sense of security and comfort for someone.
If you speak one more virgin listener, and you do not know want to say especially in the midst of the conversation, make eye contact only on one person until you’ve completed a new line shift your eye contact at one another while continuing to speak.

Voice Control
If you want to influence people with words, then your voice must be heard clearly by listeners. And if you are disebuah room with the audience from front to back, then your voice must be heard by all audiences. To be sure you do not want to shout Hannya because your voice be heard or want to force people to listen to your conversation. If it was done, people will just leave you. Emphasis must also be perkata said clearly that you want to convey a message can be captured and understood by the audience.

Meaningful gestures
Barbicara dapt anxiety as seen from the movement of your body, with a shaking pen, or whatever it is playing near you, just that you are nervous memperluhatkan.
When you speak, is pembiraca visual object seen by many people, it must meets these demands gestures reinforce what you’re talking about, an effective body movements will affect the listener who will talk your attention riveted. That way the message would be easily transmitted.

Jump to the core
Avoid talking in circles, the more you are around do not talk about things that matter, then the audience will leave you before you had time to convey the core message.
Talk directly to the point, and think what the audience needed to get them moved to do something like you want.

Before going any further, you have to identify your skills. It is also necessary to decide what type of job you will enjoy and do well. That way, you will be able you describe what you are good at and why you think you can do the job. And you will do well in the interview.

Make a list of all those achievements, accomplishments, or similar “good experiences” that you have had in the past 2 – 5 years – whether work-related or not. Those,

• You feel you did well, and
• Enjoyed doing, and
• Feel proud of

Rank order them and choose the seven best. Now, for each one, write down or tell someone,

• What you did,
• How you did it, and
• What happened.

Add these skills to your list. They are called your “motivated skills.”

Review your list and make a mark next to the other skills that you consider your “motivated skills,” the skills you most enjoy using.

One employer survey found that most people did not present the skills they had to do the job. Job applicants usually could not answer simple basic question, “Why should I hire you?”

There are three types of skills—self management, transferable, and job-related skills.

Self management skills describe your basic personality and your ability to adapt to new environments. For example: hard worker, productive, honest, friendly, optimistic, etc. Unfortunately, most job seekers don’t realize the importance of these skills and don’t mention them.

Transferable skills are the ability to organize events could be used in a variety of jobs and might be essential for success in certain occupation. For example: computer skills, written communication, build/repair things, public speaking, keeping financial record, play musical instrument, and so on.

Job-related skills are those you need to do a particular occupation. For example, an accountant needs to know how to do footing and journaling financial entries. He/she should also have to operate related accounting software.

Then, you should define exactly what you want—the job. Identify what makes a job satisfying for you, decide the job title you desired, what industry you might be working in, what type of work do you prefer, how much money do you hope to make, how much responsibility are you willing to accept, and other things that are important or have meaning to you.

Many people feel confused when he will find a suitable job with him “Where a job based on the unique qualities – skills, talents, needs, values, and interests and lifestyle you want to live”.

IS THE FIRST THING ABOUT YOURSELF

Understand your “unique qualities” is not easy. This is a challenge for everyone. But a clearer picture you have, the more likely you are to choose a satisfying career.

You have to do is to write your ideas down. You can find this difficult to do, many do. But, it will make a big difference in your self-understanding. Write down your thoughts and feelings when you do the exercises below. Creating folders to store and record your writings.

Here is a strategy you will find helpful:

1. Take tests or inventories that measure your abilities, interests, values, and personality.

2. Consider carefully your achievements as the school or in the workplace to identify your abilities. If you are a student, for example, which subjects you have done well in, or not so good at? If you work, do the same analysis. What does this tell you about your abilities – mechanical, verbal, numerical, artistic, and skills? Be careful not to ignore, or leave out your abilities.

3. Examine how you use your spare time – your hobbies, community projects, social activities, political, or religious organizations. For each one, write down three headings: Ability, Interest, and Value. And, under each heading write down your thoughts.

4. Talking with a friend or family member who is a good listener.

5. Talking with a professional counselor; learn about career counseling
In psychology there is a concept called the Johari Window that describe our self-knowledge. There are four windows in the Johari Window.

(a) The window opens. The things that we know about ourselves, but the other person knows. For example physical condition, profession, area of origin, and others.
(b) The window closed. The things about ourselves that we know but other people do not know. For example the content of feeling, opinion, sleeping habits, and so on.
(c) The window blind. The things that we do not know about ourselves, but everyone else knows. For example the things that positive and negative effects on our personality.
(d) The window was dark. The things about ourselves, but our own or other people do not know. This is the area of mystery in life.

The greater the area / window is open we will get better, because then we know ourselves as well. People who have covered a larger area would have difficulty in relationships. As for those who have very large blind areas, usually to make others feel sorry for.

The people we know close, the window must be opened more, also if we want to cooperate with others. How to open a window? How can we know ourselves? How can we have a window open a larger?.

6. Go to Identify Your Skills. There you will learn what the different types of skills and how to identify those that you have. The activities described are strong, they are used by the consulting firm in the country. You’ll find them worthy effort.

7. Write an autobiography and identify the themes that represent who you are.

8. Write a personal mission statement. In it write: what you want, what you want to achieve in life, and the values or principles of what you want to guide you.